By: Nancy Spiller

Nancy Spiller — Fri, 22 Nov 2013 00:45:08 +0000

In reply to Walter Boatner. Thank you for your comment, Walter. I am sorry to hear our histories are similar. I am finding out from far too many others about the unhappy compromises between spouses, parents and children, not only in the past, but also in the present. One of the lessons I learned in writing the book is the difference between a good compromise and a bad one. The bad ones lessen and diminish us, are often entered into out of fear and insecurity, which was the case for so many women who felt they had no alternative other than to marry and have children. Good compromises, such as those in a good marriage, are mutually beneficial and agreed upon. I wish you only good compromises from here on out!

By: Walter Boatner

Walter Boatner — Thu, 21 Nov 2013 19:57:42 +0000

I saw you today on Hallmark. Your mother could have been mine; a bright, energetic woman, whose life plan was interupted by a man (my father) and four children in five years. Though my parents did not divorce right a way, our home was a battle ground between two grossly ill-suited people. My mother became bitter and gave up on parenting and we kids raised ourselves. I well understood your description of the culture during your youth; we were in almost the same time frame. (1950’s)

Walter Boatner (born and raised in Oklahoma)

Walter Boatner

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